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Naimul_Hd
July 5, 2011, 02:42 AM
Please spare few minutes to read and think 10 times before you decide to go to any pvt hospitals in BD. The victim of this incident is my friend. I know this type of incident is nothing new but at least we can stand against so called "well educated doctors" by spreading this notes. Be careful and let others know as well. Thanks.
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How my daughter Afsheen passed away
by Syed Tashfin Chowdhury (https://www.facebook.com/syed.chowdhury) on Monday, July 4, 2011 at 4:18am

My daughter (age: 7 months) began to choke on the noon of June 9 and turned blue. We rushed her to United hospital and were told that she has aspiration. We also found out later on the day that she had secretion in her lungs from pneumonia. You don’t need Doogie Howser MD to realize that since the Aspiration pneumonia's effects will probably stick for a while, the ventilator should not be removed at least till it subsides.

However, it was done on June 10. Initially, she had troubled breathing and then she reached "spontaneous breathing". We thought everything was well and we returned home. The next morning we went back to learn that after 13 hours she had an apnic attack and had to be put on the ventilator again.

The duty doctors and the consultants realized all of a sudden, that maybe the hypoxia/anoxia has hurt her brains and on the third day decided to do a CT scan on her. Please note, the third day.

This bright idea did not come to them on the first or the second day. So, we were ready for the CT scan but we soon learned that it won't happen that day because there was something wrong with the scanner. My friend Tanim was pissed and he wrote a nasty status update on the day which caught the eyes of someone who happens to be a partner of the board that owns United. He was sincere and tried to help. Finally we found out that the CT scanner is working. But since the AC isn't working the doctors do not want to administer the scanning.

So it happened the next day.But even before the CT scan the doctors were literally banging on the tables saying my daughter had global development delay and that she has cerebral palsy and even if she survives, she will have a disability for the rest of her life. I was ready to live with my daughter in anyway she was. But the really informed doctors, who seemed to be even more informed then GOD Himself, were still trying to tell us that we are not thinking about the Quality of life she might have. Rather than her survival we should think about this.....YES, these are doctors we are talking about. So I basically counted on ALLAH.

Finally the CT scan mentioned three things, all of which basically meant that my daughter is a goner. I'd no confidence in these doctors and so I went to Apollo for second opinions and also sought the help of other neuro surgeons from DMCH and so on. These doctors initially after seeing the reports said that, yes her case is critical. However, when two of them actually came to the hospital to examine her they reverted their stance and said there is still hope because she was responding to painful stimuli and even trying to take off the vent pipe when she was not sedated. One of the neurosurgeons prescribed a steroid which he said should have been given to her. This was the fifth or sixth day and already before he arrived, my daughter had two cardiac arrests when the duty doctors tried to bring down the Fractional Oxygen setting from 80% to 70%. As soon as the steroid was given, they were able to bring the setting down to 50%. Question to United lovers: Why couldnt the doctors, the bright Selim Shakur and the oh-so-learned Nargis Ara not give these steroids to her on the first day?


Moving on, Dr Narayan Saha of DMCH came in and said that weaning her off the ventilator should be the prime concern now and it can be done. All this while, the doctors at United told me it's because of her secretion that she cannot be weaned off. A week later when I called Dr Narayan again he tells me 'Ask them to decrease the secretion'. I was dumbfounded and told him that there is no such drug. He said, 'Key bolsey. Glycopyrrolate ditey bolen. Apollo r pharmacy tei pawa jai.' Now any normal human being would think that maybe, just maybe, the doctors at United did not about this. But they did! Dr Narayan had prescribed the same drug for another patient earlier. Mind you, this is the third week and my daughter has been pricked thousands of times already. Her veins are becoming hard to find. I find Glycopyrollate by myself from Apollo. All by myself...no help from the United doctors. I give it to them on the 25th of June. They start giving it on 25th night. Selim Shakur tells me the next day that they'll start it from the next day. The duty doctor tells me they started it the previous night. What co-ordination!

Also, since my daughter has a lung problem and the Pediatric doctors are claiming that she has a neuro problem, should they not have contacted their specialists in these fields? We, the family, had to request them to do so. It's a very bureaucratic organisation, you see. They have to be told things!

Finally, on June 28, Selim Shakur tells us that there is some hope. Her secretion is clearing out. However, he is leaving for USA the next day. So, Nargis Ara, will look after her while he is gone. On June 29, she is apparently getting better. We are feeling better also. On the night of June 30, the Pediatric ICU doctors call us at 2:45 to tell us she had her second cardiac arrest and could not be revived.

Now you tell me, ALLAH hayat disen. Being a devout muslim, I accept that and I accept her leaving us. But being a journalist, I ask each and every single one of you, 'amar chotto meye ta ei type er bejonma doctors aar hospital staff er birudhhe kotokhon lorto?'

Final question to everyone: If the glycopyrrolate was given to her on the second or third day, could the outcome not have been better? What if she was given steroids on the first week and not on the second or third week? They could not find her veins to push the IV saline and other medications a day before she had the cardiac arrest.
Even when we were taking her body out of that hellhole, the doctors wrote she had septicimia, that she died at 3:30am and made other mistakes.

My Afsheen died with a smile on her face. And I am not making this up. She actually did have a smile on her face. As a parent I was glad she did not have to go through the torture anymore.

I know my daughter is better off dead than leaving in this Godforsaken country where hospitals like United can easily manipulate the dailies and the ministers to get their way. I am happy for my daughter. However, as a parent and a journalist, I feel I should share my ordeal with everyone. Maybe, just maybe it will save some people from making the biggest mistake of their lives.

Alien
July 5, 2011, 03:00 AM
Had a hard time sifting through the medical jargon but really sad for the poor girl. I've heard of dozens of cases like this about doctor's incompetence.

Naimul_Hd
July 5, 2011, 03:28 AM
^ yes i know. But this should give you a fair idea what kind of treatment you are going to get when it comes to these diseases.

Jadukor
July 5, 2011, 04:43 AM
My dad died of lungs cancer in 2008. During the initial stage he went to apollo hospital because he used to cough a lot. They did all kinds of tests and told him he had dust allergy. Six months later when I took him to a hospital in Thailand the doctor said he had lungs cancer at an advanced stage. If we didn't lose those six months because of Apollo diagnosis probably he would have had a better chance of fighting the disease. So I guess a lot of us learned about the standard of medical treatment in bd private hospitals the hard way.

Alien
July 5, 2011, 06:40 AM
If anyone has slightest doubt + the money just go overseas. Often going to India is best option for most.

Medical profession is as bad and corrupted as any other in BD. The fact that everyone goes to get 2nd (sometimes more) opinions is proof of that.

Electrequiem
July 5, 2011, 07:17 AM
A fundamental difference that I've noticed between most doctors in America and most doctors in Bangladesh is the level of concern and regard they have for their patients. Sure, there are absolutely brilliant doctors in BD, but I wonder if they picked the profession for the right reasons. I've seen many cases where these doctors treat their patients like absolute crap (pediatricians screaming at a kid's parents because they cry too much, "senior" doctors giving patients and their relatives attitude when asked about a procedure, etc etc). Overall, a sense of compassion and empathy - which I think is 50% of the cure - is lacking in BD hospitals. It seems medical colleges are so hellbent on creating great doctors, they forget to create good human beings.

RIP, Afsheen. There are no words of consolation when the deceased is 7 months old.
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ahnaf
July 5, 2011, 07:20 AM
Arokom akhane ohoroho hocche kintu karo kono kheyal nai..:(
rest in peace afsheen..

Nadim
July 5, 2011, 07:57 AM
I always doubted and will doubt rest of my life about the qualifications of the doctors in bd in those private hospitals. ekta kotha jene rakhun, bd te impossible bole kichu nai, bakigulu bhuje nen...

Alien
July 5, 2011, 07:57 AM
A fundamental difference that I've noticed between most doctors in America and most doctors in Bangladesh is the level of concern and regard they have for their patients.

The difference is actually between Bangladeshi doctors and rest of the world. In most places, there is a shortage of doctors, in BD there is a shortage of doctors with bare minimum competency and professionalism. Same with engineering.

In a country where everyone wants to be doctors and engineers when they grow up, we got zero achievements in either of those fields.

bujhee kom
July 6, 2011, 12:40 PM
May Allah the Al-mighty help dear Afsheen rest in peace.

It is indeed very very dissapointing, sad but a true picture of madical practice in Bangladesh, private or governmnet run Hospitals. We didn not change much form our past, from the 60's, 70's or 80's in terms of professionalism, care or humanity. We rather lost what ever we had, I believe. Today there are a lot of flashy/glittering Hospitals/facilities there may be in Dhaka, but the inside (physically, morally, ethically and from true knowledge and care-giver's perspective) it's all empty! It's all about GREED, money and lust! I am disgusted by them!

By the above comments I am not generalizing all the Medical practitioners/Doctors and nurses of Bangladesh/Dhaka, I know there are good doctors out there in Dhaka who realy care and do give a dime for that human body that they are treating.....BUT that is very very few and far between!

Isnaad
July 6, 2011, 12:55 PM
May Allah the Al-mighty help dear Afsheen rest in peace.

It is indeed very very dissapointing, sad but a true picture of madical practice in Bangladesh, private or governmnet run Hospitals. We didn not change much form our past, from the 60's, 70's or 80's in terms of professionalism, care or humanity. We rather lost what ever we had, I believe. Today there are a lot of flashy/glittering Hospitals/facilities there may be in Dhaka, but the inside (physically, morally, ethically and true knowledge and care-giver's perspective) it's a ll empty! It's all about GREED, money and lust! I am disgusted by them!

By the above comments I am not generalizing the Medical practitioners/Doctors and nurses of Bangladesh/Dhaka, I know there are good doctors out there in Dhaka who relaly care and do give a dime for that human body that they are treating.....BUT that is very very few and far between!

Your serious side is as good as your humour...! :up: And I feel sorry for Ashfeen as well, its a harsh reality that our lust for money is getting the better off us in many many cases.

Murad
July 6, 2011, 12:59 PM
Most of the Doctors in BD are just MBBS graduates. So you don't expect anything good from them.

WarWolf
July 6, 2011, 01:25 PM
May Allah keep her in ever lasting peace.

golam
July 6, 2011, 01:26 PM
I was literally crying after reading the article. Earlier this year I went to visit Bangladesh with my 18 months old daughter. SUCH A MISTAKE. My daughter got seriously ill on the 2nd day with severe dehydration. Went to United Hospital (without knowing any reputation) and the torture begun. These so called "sisters" don't even know how to do a proper intravenous push. My baby didn't even move.....they just said "sorry vain pai nai" Literary after 4 attempts they suggested to do it on her head!! I screamed with them and had to do it from the intensive care unit. Unbelievable. I don't get it how they hire these uneducated (don't even speak proper Bangla) teenage look alike "sisters". By the way, my baby had an open heart surgery in Canada when she was 6 and had several pushes prior to her surgery. I observed every single one of them done by the expert nurses here in Canada...not a single miss.

By the way, Dr. Shakur also treated my baby at that hospital.

bujhee kom
July 6, 2011, 01:31 PM
Thank you Isnaad! So are your bro! Allah bless!

I am so sorry to hear about little girl's suffering dear Golam bhai! I am relieved that she is okay and doing better now. Allah bless her and may Him make her great, healthy, happy, smart and long long living old!

simon
July 6, 2011, 01:41 PM
মাঝে মাঝে মনে হয় আমাদের দেশে মানুষের জীবনের চেয়ে সস্তা আর কিছু নাই. :(

golam
July 6, 2011, 01:44 PM
Thank you Isnaad! So are your bro! Allah bless!

I am so sorry to hear about little girl's suffering dear Golam bhai! I am relieved that she is okay and doing better now. Allah bless her and may Him make her great, healthy, happy, smart and long long living old!

Thank you so much.

Naimul_Hd
July 6, 2011, 07:26 PM
I was literally crying after reading the article. Earlier this year I went to visit Bangladesh with my 18 months old daughter. SUCH A MISTAKE. My daughter got seriously ill on the 2nd day with severe dehydration. Went to United Hospital (without knowing any reputation) and the torture begun. These so called "sisters" don't even know how to do a proper intravenous push. My baby didn't even move.....they just said "sorry vain pai nai" Literary after 4 attempts they suggested to do it on her head!! I screamed with them and had to do it from the intensive care unit. Unbelievable. I don't get it how they hire these uneducated (don't even speak proper Bangla) teenage look alike "sisters". By the way, my baby had an open heart surgery in Canada when she was 6 and had several pushes prior to her surgery. I observed every single one of them done by the expert nurses here in Canada...not a single miss.

By the way, Dr. Shakur also treated my baby at that hospital.

Thanks a lot Golam bro for sharing your story. There were many news recently where doctors' foreign certificates found Fake. Back in our country, nobody cares to check the authenticity of certificates, Med School's accreditation etc and these fraud doctors manipulate easily. Its sad that our good doctors are out numbered by these crocked doctors who's main aim is to earn money not serving the community first. We all respect doctor profession cause its considered as a Noble profession and Doctors are treated as a GOD and we cant expect this kind of treatment from those whose we respect and rank them so high.

Ajfar
July 6, 2011, 10:33 PM
R.I.P Afsheen. May Allah bless her soul in heaven.

ahnaf
July 7, 2011, 12:09 AM
thanks a lot golam bro for sharing your story. There were many news recently where doctors' foreign certificates found fake. Back in our country, nobody cares to check the authenticity of certificates, med school's accreditation etc and these fraud doctors manipulate easily. Its sad that our good doctors are out numbered by these crocked doctors who's main aim is to earn money not serving the community first. We all respect doctor profession cause its considered as a noble profession and doctors are treated as a god and we cant expect this kind of treatment from those whose we respect and rank them so high.

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পুরো দেশ থেকে প্রতিবছর মাত্র ২২০০ জন ডাক্তার সরকারী ব্যবস্থাপনায় বেরিয়ে আসে.. এইখানেও ২০-২৫ % র্দুনীতি করে প্রশ্নপত্র বের করে চান্স পায়..
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Kabir
July 7, 2011, 01:26 PM
All I can say is, rest in peace Afsheen.

We don't have any kids, but want one. Hearing about this nightmare of yours, I'm feeling terrible and scared - it's hard enough to have a kid, and then losing the kid for some nasty gafloti of someone, it's just unbearable.

My condolences brother. Inshallah your daughter will be in eternal peace - and Inshallah you will be blessed by Allah with another Afsheen.

golam
July 8, 2011, 01:51 PM
Afsheen was such a cute baby. Saw her pictures after adding him on Facebook. I'm really saddened and sorry for their lose. May Allah bless her soul.

Naimul_Hd
July 8, 2011, 07:27 PM
Afsheen was such a cute baby. Saw her pictures after adding him on Facebook. I'm really saddened and sorry for their lose. May Allah bless her soul.

Thats so nice of you Golam bhai. Please keep her in your prayers. thank you.

al Furqaan
July 8, 2011, 11:19 PM
Don't want to sound like I'm justifying the unjustifiable, but doctors make mistakes in all countries. Of course Western nation's will have a better quality of care, but people here die due to medical error or negligence all the time as well.

One thing to remember, which my family practices, is never leave anyone at the hospital by himself or herself for any length of time no matter the age of the patient or even if its a "minor procedure".

Its also well known that most deaths occur in the night time hours when the senior physicians have all gone to bed and the on call docs are over-worked, underpaid residents who aren't fully licensed yet.

kalpurush
July 9, 2011, 04:16 AM
Monta kharap hoye gelo - My prayers are with the little angel and your friend Naimul bhai.