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bujhee kom
August 17, 2017, 04:49 PM
Tasnim Jara - Bangladeshi Bride Stomps Traditions - No Make-ups, No Jewelry at Wedding

https://c.tribune.com.pk/2017/08/1481886-mainm-1502781022-174-640x480.jpg


More power to her!

Wherever in the world it is that you get married, a wedding is usually all about the bride. It’s an occasion for her to look glamorous, beautiful – and this she often achieves through expert make-up, a gorgeous outfit and sparkling jewellery.

In many Asian countries – especially in the Indian subcontinent – ultra-lavish outfits and extravagant gold and jewellery on the bride are often considered to be markers of her family’s wealth and social status.

Many families don’t think twice about spending huge amounts of money – sometimes even taking loans – in order to have a fancy wedding for their daughter that they can ill-afford.

Recently though, one Bangladeshi woman – Tasnim Jara – challenged the stereotype that brides should be dripping with gold and plastered in makeup on their wedding day.

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https://sg.theasianparent.com/tasnim-jara-bangladeshi-bride/


1. Breaking stereotypes: Bangladeshi bride wears no makeup, jewellery on wedding day
The Express Tribune
https://tribune.com.pk/story/1481886/bangladeshi-bride-breaks-stereotype-wedding-day-no-make-jewellery/

2. Cotton Saree, No Jewellery. Bride Breaks Tradition, Explains Why...
NDTV.com
http://www.ndtv.com/offbeat/cotton-saree-no-jewellery-bride-breaks-tradition-explains-why-in-viral-post-1737857

3. Bride Tasnim Jara Wore No Makeup To Her Wedding For An
APlus
http://aplus.com/a/bride-tasnim-jara-no-makeup-wedding-day-facebook-post?no_monetization=true

4. Why This Bride Wearing No Makeup on Her Wedding Day Is...
Glamour
https://www.glamour.com/story/bride-no-makeup-wedding-day

5. This Muslim Bride Didn't Wear Makeup to Her Wedding and Is Now...
Allure
https://www.allure.com/story/muslim-bride-no-makeup-wedding

6. Why Muslim Bride Wore Zero Makeup at Her Wedding
POPSUGAR
https://www.popsugar.com/beauty/Why-Muslim-Bride-Wore-Zero-Makeup-Her-Wedding-43863804

7. Bangladesh bride stirs social media storm after posting wedding photo...
Straits Times
http://www.straitstimes.com/asia/south-asia/bangladesh-bride-stirs-social-media-storm

8.This Bangladeshi bride didn't wear any make-up or jewellery. Here's...
Hindustan Times
http://www.hindustantimes.com/more-lifestyle/this-bangladeshi-bride-didn-t-wear-any-make-up-or-jewellery-here-s-why-she-rebelled/story-eulowbJ3hD8MfFdo7e7UoJ.html

9. Bride shunned by her family for not wearing makeup on her wedding day
Yahoo
https://www.yahoo.com/beauty/bride-shunned-family-not-wearing-makeup-wedding-day-155535244.html

10. Esta noiva muçulmana não usou maquiagem e nem joias em seu ...
Estadao
http://emais.estadao.com.br/noticias/moda-e-beleza,esta-noiva-muculmana-nao-usou-maquiagem-e-nem-joias-em-seu-casamento,70001933191

11. Bangladeshi bride stirs social media storm
The Malaysian Insight
http://www.themalaysianinsight.com/s/10518/

12. A woman has schooled society after she walked into her wedding...
msn.com
http://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/whats-hot/a-woman-has-schooled-society-after-she-walked-into-her-wedding-wearing-zero-makeup/ar-AAqfwK0?li=BBnbfcL

13. Bangladesh bride stirs social media storm
Free Malaysia Today
http://www.freemalaysiatoday.com/category/world/2017/08/11/bangladesh-bride-stirs-social-media-storm/

14. Bangladeshi bride makes statement: Says no to makeup, jewelry...
Dunya News
http://dunyanews.tv/en/WeirdNews/401046-Bangladeshi-bride-makes-statement-Says-no-to-make

Roy_1
August 17, 2017, 05:57 PM
It takes immense courage to break stereotypes in our part of the world, especially if you are a woman, glad that she is getting the recognition she deserves, wish her a blissful marriage life.

kalpurush
August 17, 2017, 06:11 PM
... reminds me of Humayun Faridi and Shuborna Mustafa's wedding with Beli-fuler mala...

aklemalp
August 17, 2017, 06:46 PM
She looks beautiful. ...is that one of our beloved BC bhais getting hitched?

DinRaat.
August 17, 2017, 07:52 PM
The groom looks like a Bangladeshi Tom Cruise.

Yankees
August 17, 2017, 08:16 PM
lol why is this news? Not wearing makeup = courage now?

Jadukor
August 17, 2017, 09:08 PM
Next headline: Bangladeshi Bride asks Husband to cook, stomps traditions

DinRaat.
August 18, 2017, 05:03 AM
lol why is this news? Not wearing makeup = courage now?

Manush er kono kaj nai ar ki korbe

Habib
August 18, 2017, 08:13 AM
Haha good for her and even better for her husband's wallet. But how come so many international news outlet picked up the story? Especially considering, I haven't seen this news(lol) in local media. Oi bideshi journo gula dawat paisilo biyete mone hoy. 😁 Had this girl been a public figure, maybe it would have encouraged people to follow. All the brides in BD look the same because of the amount of make up put on them. But it's not like putting on make up on your wedding day is a crime of some sort.

Eclipse
August 18, 2017, 08:53 AM
What's she trying to prove here?

iDumb
August 18, 2017, 09:12 AM
Good for her. But I don't wanna be next to someone who doesn't go the extra mile to look their best during special occasions.

You don't have to wear expensive jewelry or heavy makeup but you should try to look as best as possible.

I am sure a girl wouldn't like it if the guy decided to get married wearing a lungi.

One should aspire to conform to their own culture. There is nothing sexier than that in my opinion.

Regardless of race, I would love it if the girl who is marrying me wears our traditional wedding dress and not a shada gown. YUCK!

iDumb
August 18, 2017, 09:15 AM
Next headline: Bangladeshi Bride asks Husband to cook, stomps traditions

Going by many posts in this site... Husband cooking seems to be the norm. What do Bangladeshi girls/bride do these days? USELESS....

they don't wanna cook
they don't wanna work
they don't wanna have kids, if they do, they want someone else to take care of it
they don't wanna have sex
they don't wanna listen
They don't wanna clean or do laundry or do house work
All they wanna do is use facebook, have thousands of friends, go out with some of them (mostly guys) and spend YOUR money.
But if YOU as the guy use facebook, go out with friends (guy, forget about girls) - their crazy jealousy clingyness manifests itself....

iDumb
August 18, 2017, 09:23 AM
this guy is gonna be hearing rest of his life how he never had to buy her anything for the wedding... and that she SAVED HIM thousands of dollars.... I don't wanna be this guy.

BUY HEr SHITT BRO.... if she wears it or not is her problem but DO YOUR PART....

mufi_02
August 18, 2017, 10:38 AM
purple tie and pocket square! Seriously brah!! That is more newsworthy to me.

Yankees
August 18, 2017, 02:15 PM
Haha good for her and even better for her husband's wallet. But how come so many international news outlet picked up the story? Especially considering, I haven't seen this news(lol) in local media. Oi bideshi journo gula dawat paisilo biyete mone hoy. 😁 Had this girl been a public figure, maybe it would have encouraged people to follow. All the brides in BD look the same because of the amount of make up put on them. But it's not like putting on make up on your wedding day is a crime of some sort.

Welcome to the Millenial age. I'm surprised Buzzfeed hasn't picked up on this:

"21 reasons Tasnim Jara is all of us."

"40 reasons Tasnim Jara is bae"

"This Fearless Bride decided to not wear makeup, kicks chuvanisms a$$"

"10 women who defied patriarchy: #2 Malala Yusufzai, #1 Tasnim Jara"

DinRaat.
August 19, 2017, 03:20 AM
I have a simple solution. Don`t get married.

There are other ways to satisfy your need, just take a look at iDumb`s sig.

DinRaat.
August 19, 2017, 10:15 PM
This reminds me of the Pepsi Ad, with Kendall Jenner, minus the controversy.

R0ssei
August 24, 2017, 11:02 AM
Trump wouldn't like this.

Zeeshan
August 24, 2017, 11:20 AM
Not one bit.

aklemalp
August 24, 2017, 11:22 AM
What were brides wearing before there were any makeup?

Ahsan
August 24, 2017, 11:48 AM
Orphy, mostly so true! You sometime hit ugly truth with seemingly non-serious way - amazing!


Going by many posts in this site... Husband cooking seems to be the norm. What do Bangladeshi girls/bride do these days? USELESS....

they don't wanna cook
they don't wanna work
they don't wanna have kids, if they do, they want someone else to take care of it
they don't wanna have sex
they don't wanna listen
They don't wanna clean or do laundry or do house work
All they wanna do is use facebook, have thousands of friends, go out with some of them (mostly guys) and spend YOUR money.
But if YOU as the guy use facebook, go out with friends (guy, forget about girls) - their crazy jealousy clingyness manifests itself....

aklemalp
August 24, 2017, 11:50 AM
^^Not to mention, their (not wives, but girls generally) Facebook photos look completely different from them in front of me live.

Zeeshan
August 24, 2017, 11:57 AM
We as a society had to come to this where the norm shouldn't have been the headline... lol sigh

iDumb
August 25, 2017, 02:02 PM
Orphy, mostly so true! You sometime hit ugly truth with seemingly non-serious way - amazing!

I am an observational commenter ... and often time write from experience of me and others around me ....

I really think Bangladeshi girls today are one of the worse spouses/gf ... there has been a major shift in the psyche that is dangerous and too far extreme at another side..

The last golden era of Bengali girl were in my opinion was our mother generation ...those 50 up ... to some extent 40 plus somewhat holds those values ..... the shift occurred in 20 plus psyche..my bat dying will finish later

Zeeshan
August 25, 2017, 08:38 PM
I cannot compute this function called 'relationship' for some reason.

Jadukor
August 26, 2017, 02:44 AM
I am an observational commenter ...

:lol: that is a sophisticated title for some dumb sexist generalizations

iDumb
August 26, 2017, 03:22 AM
... the shift occurred in 20 plus psyche..my bat dying will finish later

To further elaborate this psyche that she should not have to listen .. she is her own person .. and she should not be confined to housework ... and whoever she is with has to take up those burden ....

This is all great and I support that but she also wants the luxury of the past where she is taken care.

If you look at the western culture where the values of independence come from they have one thing that is important ... that is respect for own and others. It's because of this respect they can happily have stay home dads... what I get I give in return .... does not matter in what form.

The Bengali girls from the golden age were perhaps not so independent however they never lost this self respect and respect for others . And they understood how important their role is in the family ... that's why in our culture "ma" brings such strong feelings of devotion ..love ...

Many young Bengali girls in this era (*many not all or not majority but MANY) somehow comes to believe she is entitled to the best of both worlds...while never maturing emotionally .. never developing sense of responsibility and most of all never developing respect for self or others ....

In turn they have created an unbearable personality .... they have become poor wives ... poor mother .... and a poor person over all ....

And there are just too many of these bad apples these days that it's getting difficult to find a good one ....

Back in the golden age u can agree to an arranged marriage and be confident u will be happy 90% .... because quality girls outnumbered bad ones but now if u go Bengali chances are high u are signing up for a life of slavery and servitude ..

Go Colombian and be happy .....

iDumb
August 26, 2017, 03:36 AM
:lol: that is a sophisticated title for some dumb sexist generalizations

No what you wrote is dumb. Yelling out "sexist" shows your lack of understand of this complex subject matter of relationship and human emotion ....

Calling out girls who are poor wives and mothers is not sexist ....

Just like when I say u are not that smart I am not making anything against the mods of this site ...u just unfortunately happened to be one

Yankees
August 26, 2017, 01:11 PM
I am an observational commenter ... and often time write from experience of me and others around me ....

I really think Bangladeshi girls today are one of the worse spouses/gf ... there has been a major shift in the psyche that is dangerous and too far extreme at another side..

The last golden era of Bengali girl were in my opinion was our mother generation ...those 50 up ... to some extent 40 plus somewhat holds those values ..... the shift occurred in 20 plus psyche..my bat dying will finish later

How old are you? You sound bitter, maybe your marriage isn't going well. But comments like this do infact make you sound like an old, sexist, stubborn guy who can't get over the changing of the times. Women across the world, including Bangladesh, are achieving equality across all sectors. They are fed up with existing to be a perfect wife. Get over it and adjust your expectations.

iDumb
August 26, 2017, 01:30 PM
Haha ..try to understand the post before reacting like a little girl.

The girls who sit at home chatting on Facebook isn't achieving Jack sh##. They can be a burden to whomever they are with if they have a poor upbringing and a lopsided world view .

I am talking about jobless girls who think they shouldn't have to do anything....

U guys react like that because it's an uncomfortable subject and calling "sexist" makes u look good and smart ...it is the opposite ..

Try being a jobless guy who does zero at home and see how that works out for you specially if you are bangali .... not a single Bengali person on earth will respect you ...

And for the record every body here loves to get personal towards my family when this subject comes up ... how my marriage going is none of your business .... nor is it any one of your duty to rescue my poor overworked wife ... so don't be a hero

this land is filled with mediocre and less than that men and women . All of you are brainwashed to be satisfied with that .... if you want a life of slavery and servitude ..who am I to protest ?

Yankees
August 26, 2017, 04:04 PM
Haha ..try to understand the post before reacting like a little girl.

Not the sort of language you want to use when defending yourself as someone whos not a sexist jacka$$

Here's some friendly advice: It's really hard to read your posts and even harder to decipher them. Edit yourself and gather your thoughts prior to posting. Or better yet, quit posting crap and then get all pissed when we call you out on it. You go way overboard trying to justify your crap.

You are way too emotional and you take rebuttals like it's a personal attack. If you don't have the emotional maturity to post on message forums, then don't. Go talk to friends who will just agree with you because that's really all you want.

iDumb
August 26, 2017, 07:53 PM
Are you describing you ? I don't need to defend myself to you . Why does it bother you so much when I say many of today's Bengali girls make poor wives and mother ?

These are the girls who will be raising our kids ..the next generation .... if they are a bimbo to begin with what will the future hold ..

More later bat dying ....

Ahsan
August 28, 2017, 03:27 PM
Many young Bengali girls in this era (*many not all or not majority but MANY) somehow comes to believe she is entitled to the best of both worlds...while never maturing emotionally .. never developing sense of responsibility and most of all never developing respect for self or others ....

In turn they have created an unbearable personality .... they have become poor wives ... poor mother .... and a poor person over all ....

>> you nailed it, Orphy!

And there are just too many of these bad apples these days that it's getting difficult to find a good one ....

>> spot on!

Go Colombian and be happy ....

>> interesting! Tell me about it :) I thought it was go Filipino and be happy!

iDumb
August 28, 2017, 07:40 PM
Go Colombian and be happy ....

>> interesting! Tell me about it :) I thought it was go Filipino and be happy!

LOL. Maybe. As long as it's not Bangali, you are good I think. Some would however require a lot of money - ie Caucasian. Shada manush I feel like are very respectful towards their partner and emotionally very mature but for you to be with one of them you have to be pretty well off.

To be with a bangali, not only will you have to be well off, you have to be a superman, a super nanny, with a bollywood hero look and charm and the list goes on and on .. but in return you will only receive an emotionally immature lazy person.... There is something in the current upbringing that's gone wrong i think.

But don't be disheartened.. there are still plenty of great girls (bengali) out there who will bring the best in you. But as Roman bhai recently mentioned, getting one of them is just pure luck and blessing from the almighty.