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Old January 7, 2018, 01:30 PM
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Thanks Roy_1. It will only be useful if members really try those solutions and see some improvement.

For youngsters in their mid twenties focusing on designing life can be a sustaining tool for all future endeavors. Like choosing right major at college, taking the right offer than finding a job or committing to a proper relationship at the right time. Do not let dysfunctional beliefs like you will do rest of your life exactly what you majored in during the best days of your life (college life) mire your decisions on work, play, health, love - the four pillars of life design.

What we should have is an "encore” career—work that combines personal meaning, continued income, and social impact. We are emotional beings and when emotions are involved, design thinking has proved to be the best problem-solving tool. Once we have a well-designed life it will be a life that is generative—it will constantly be creative, productive, changing, evolving, and there is always the possibility of surprise.

The idea is to apply the innovation principles of design thinking to the wicked problem of designing your life at and after university. Finding a job that we can love, building a meaningful career, ensuring a healthy work-life balance, remaining physically healthy and becoming rich - all should be handled with this mental mapping for future.

The first ingredient is reframing technique. Another mind-set is changing bias to action. Also curiosity, awareness and radical collaboration. That's it - the 5 mind sets necessary for an efficient design. I talked about passion earlier in my posts to identify long-term goals. But sometimes it is obscure to really understand passion. One can be passionate about multiple things. Prototyping can help. If A wants to be a programmer, guitarist and also a grandmaster in chess first thing A needs to do is prototyping each possible pathway and outcome, and see what really resonates with them. A well-designed life is a marvelous portfolio of experiences, of adventures, of failures that taught you important lessons, of hardships that made you stronger and helped you know yourself better, and of achievements and satisfactions.

Do not waste any of your daily 1440 minute bank on a wrong problem. Most people do that. It is the success disaster — wake up ten years later wondering how the hell they got to wherever they are, and why they are so unhappy. So, deciding which problems to work on may be one of the most important decisions you make, because people can lose years (or a lifetime) working on the wrong problem. It is not easy to choose at the beginning. The key is not to get stuck on something that you have effectively no chance of succeeding at. Learn to say "No" as soon you recognize it.

Next we need to define our compass - one for a Lifeview and another for a Workview. The main target is coherency.

It connect the dots between three things:
* Who you are
* What you believe
* What you are doing

Workview may address such questions as:
* Why work?
* What’s work for?
* What does work mean?
* How does it relate to the individual, others, society?
* What defines good or worthwhile work?
* What does money have to do with it?
* What do experience, growth, and fulfillment have to do with it?

Life view covers questions as:
* Why are we here?
* What is the meaning or purpose of life?
* What is the relationship between the individual and others?
* Where do family, country, and the rest of the world fit in?
* What is good, and what is evil?
* Is there a higher power, God, or something transcendent, and if so, what impact does this have on your life?
* What is the role of joy, sorrow, justice, injustice, love, peace, and strife in life?

Next is keeping a journal called GTJ. There are two elements to the Good Time Journal:
* Activity Log (where I record where I’m engaged and energized)
* Reflections (where I discover what I am learning)
This journal becomes useful while making decisions for present issue in hand, how a similar issue was handled, the good, the bad and the ugly.

As a life designer, you need to embrace two philosophies: 1. You choose better when you have lots of good ideas to choose from. 2. You never choose your first solution to any problem.
If you accept this idea — that there are multiple great designs for your life, though you’ll still only get to live one — it is rather liberating. There is no one idea for your life. There are many lives you could live happily and productively (no matter how many years old you are), and there are lots of different paths you could take to live each of those productive, amazingly different lives. Again build prototypes to explore questions about those alternatives. Ask a mentor or friend about your prototypes. Not to critique but to reflect and amplify.

The secret to happiness in life design isn’t making the right choice; it’s learning to choose well. Life is a process not outcome. More precisely, Failure is just the raw material of success. We all screw up; we all have weaknesses; we all have growing pains. Convert that raw material into real growth. It’s a simple three-step exercise:
1. Log your failures.
2. Categorize your failures.
3. Identify growth insights.

Not but the least five simple things you need to do: (1) be curious (curiosity), (2) try stuff (bias to action), (3) reframe problems (reframing), (4) know it’s a process (awareness), and (5) ask for help (radical collaboration).
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