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Old January 12, 2018, 08:30 PM
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Thanks Royey for pointing out the main ingredient for goal setting hence life, which is the pursuit to be happy. Note that all those hacks talks about three questions. Like BengaliPagol, each has their own style but in the end it is Why -> What -> How.

The Stanford course for Life Design gives you that meta-knowledge of how not to get overwhelmed by following few basic rules. What I summarized in the 8 points should be sufficient to lead this approach successfully.

But if we dig deeper on purpose which you pointed out, here are some excerpts we can consider.

What exactly happiness is and how we can all go about finding it. Bobby McFerrin said, “Don’t worry, be happy.” When you ask yourself that big Why question to yourself while setting up your long term goal, all other responses, whether they’re related to fame, money, power, respect or any number of other things, become secondary to happiness. Whether people are working towards money or any other external goal, in the end, these aims are merely steps on the path to that pursuit. Just consider someone who wants money to afford more surfing vacations and a great underwater camera. For him, money is simply a tool to get the things that will make him happy.
David Hume said, human pursuits from the arts to science to law exist solely to enable people to achieve happiness. It can stem from two factors: letting in positive emotions and seeing life as purposeful. Or to put it differently, pleasure and meaning.
Emotions break us away from our standstills, moving us in new directions and prompting us to take action. It fully complies with the above discussion about designing life. Without emotions, we would never have the drive to do much of anything at all. Simply put, emotions spur us on.
A fulfilling life depends on integrating pleasure with meaning to find true happiness. Smoking a Benson might be an extremely pleasurable experience, but it can’t produce happiness if constantly bludgeoned by the thought of health deterioration in your sub-conscious.
So to be truly happy, we must pursue experiences that not only trigger pleasurable emotions but are also meaningful and personal. That is why not only what and how, also why. Why falls into the passion, emotion and vision which ultimately creates that spontaneously.

To be truly happy, you’ll need to assess both your present life and what’s to come. people who enjoy the present, understanding that their current activity will also benefit them in the future are not hedonist, nihilist or those who are in a rat race. All belonging to latter groups got productivity, life design or mindful actions wrong. Society tends to reward those who try to achieve happiness down the line by enduring suffering today using the carrot and stick hypothesis. In the end it never lets to enjoy the fruits of the present labor. Rigorously involving in painful tasks for future happiness never works cause after all we live by the moment.
So, instead of putting off happiness in the present to be happy in the future, set appropriate goals to make sure you can have both.
Fulfilling such a purpose can actually be quite a challenge. to make sure that you’re advancing your purpose while making yourself happy, it’s important to set future goals that are in line with the principles of meaning and pleasure. Targets that you choose personally for yourself, not ones that are imposed by others. They should be a product of your will to express yourself and your true desires. Take a moment to reflect on the aspects of life that give you the most pleasure. Try to identify both long- and short-term goals that will guide you along your path.
For students, that means first reflecting on how happy your chosen field makes you. Once you’ve done that, you can identify your true self-interests and pick subjects that really bring you joy. Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi said, flow occurs when you become so engrossed in something you love that you’re entirely immersed in the process.
When you’re in a state of flow, you don’t feel the anxiety and stress that learning can trigger. Instead, you just act – almost without thinking. If you ever been in research work, you must have experienced such flow at some point of your analytical tasks.
“To different mind the same world is a hell or a heaven” (Emerson),
people would be happier than those who work for external motivators like money, promotions and fame. So ask,
- what do I find meaningful?
- where do I find pleasure?
- where are my strengths?
See how it matches previously discussed life-view.

Last edited by One World; January 12, 2018 at 10:13 PM..
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