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"And do not curse those who call on other than GOD, lest they blaspheme and curse GOD, out of ignorance. We have adorned the works of every group in their eyes. Ultimately, they return to their Lord, then He informs them of everything they had done." (Qur'an 6:108)
Originally Posted by Zunaid
Then you will die an unfilled man.
Living, shall forfeit fair renown
And, doubly dying shall go down
To the vile dust from whence he sprung
Unwept, unhonored, and unsung.
[I might acquiesce if you can tell me the author]
Hmm....let me attempt my hand at second sight.
I am getting English vibe....off the coast of Britain....somewhere near...Ireland? Scottish Gaelic...hmm...okay okay....now I see it....a baronet....a chubby man....in black....around....19th...no wait....18th century...wait...
a muslim lady asked a question on Islam Q and A, and Sheikh Salih al Munajjid/Islam Q and A Shyookh gave a wonderful response. The question is in red, the answer in normal ink
my husband is much older than me. I am afraid he may pass away much earlier than me. Besides the fact that it would be a tradegy by itself, as I understand it would mean for me being on the street with hardly any money. We dont have any children yet. Is that true that if he dyes, then the house that we live in have to be sold and divided between his humerous relatives (siblings, nephews, etc)? The house is very small, it would fit only 3-4 people at most. Is the accomodation that a husband has to provide to his wife only available for her while he is alive? Were the wifes of The Prophet Muhammad forced out of their houses after his death? I cannot live with or inherit from my family, because they are not muslim.
My bridal money won't las me long - a year at most if I would have to rent a place. One eights of my husband's property won't be enough to buy a place to live.
And you in one of your answers discourage men from marrying a widow. I am starting to think that I should quit the idea of having children, whom I want very much, and go to work.
That would mean I would spend next 10-15 years of my life trying to earn for my own place to live, and then me and my husband will be beyond the age that allows to have children. My husband takes good care of me, but loosing him would mean a disaster for me. My ancestors lived a long life, except those who were smokers. So if The Most Generous Allah will let me live as long as them but takes my husband away, the best I can hope for is to become a burden for ummah as I get old, right?
Praise be to Allah.
You should understand that lifespans are already decreed and provision is already allocated; no one will ever die until he has received his provision in full and his time is up. Allah, may He be exalted, is more compassionate to His slave than his own mother; in fact He is more compassionate to him than he is to himself. If Allah were to let the individual decide for himself, and he decreed whatever crossed his mind and what he thinks is best according to his own calculations, thoughts and illusions, none of us would ever be happy in his life and would not manage his own affairs in the manner he hoped for and strove to achieve.
Have you not heard the words of Allah, may He be exalted (interpretation of the meaning): “And in the heaven is your provision, and that which you are promised” [adh-Dhaariyaat 51:22]?
Do you not know that your provision comes only from the Lord of the Worlds, not from your husband? Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And no (moving) living creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allah. And He knows its dwelling place and its deposit (in the uterus, grave, etc.). all is in a Clear Book (Al-Lauh Al-Mahfooz - the Book of Decrees with Allah)”
“And so many a moving (living) creature there is, that carries not its own provision! Allah provides for it and for you. And He is the All-Hearer, the AllKnower”
Have you not heard the hadeeth of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ood (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), who is the most truthful one, told us: “The creation of any one of you is put together in his mother’s womb for forty days, then he becomes a ‘alaqah (a piece of thick coagulated blood) for a similar period, then he becomes like a chewed piece of flesh (mudghah) for a similar period. Then the angel is sent and he breathes the soul into him and is enjoined to write down four things: his provision, his lifespan, his deeds and whether he is doomed (to Hell) or blessed (destined for Paradise)…”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 7454 and Muslim, 2643.
You do not need anything but one thing: you need to think positively of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, and to put your trust in Him, refer you need to Him, have faith in what is with Him and be content with what He chooses for you.
Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty).
3. And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allaah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things”
With regard to your share of your husband’s house, the matter is not as you think.
Yes, if the husband dies and does not have any children, you will have one quarter, but do you know that if he has a son, you will have one eighth and the son will get the rest of the estate? Because the son prevents the brothers and sisters of the deceased, his paternal uncles and all other relatives on the father’s side, apart from the grandfather, from inheriting?
If the child is female, you will get one eighth and the daughter will get half. This means that the child, whatever he or she is, will get a large portion of the house and if it is added to your share, it will become even greater. So why are you worried?
nice question. weird but entertaining q. answer kinda poor i thought, too much religious quotes without concrete and helpful game plan. why is she worried is the q he ends the advice with? lol. I would be scared as hell if i was in her position. so the solution he proposes is pretty much have a child as soon as possible to hold on to the house.
a better financial advice would be to buy a life insurance against her husbands name for future protection, and justify it Islamically. What is the husband's job.. what about social security...where is she located.... there are lot of ways to try to prepare yourself financially for her fear...
or she could sell one of her husband's kidneys as he is dying soon anyway..lol
this is the problem with advice sometimes...lot of religious knowledge... poor knowledge in other fields... the question should be rephrased as "what can she do, or how can she, islamically to financially prepare herself in case of her husband (sole provider's) death"?
However, i was wondering why that Imam would discourage men from marrying a widow ?
Our prophet Mohammed himself married a widow as his first wife, didn't he ? Then why such advice ? Any thoughts ?
SubhanAllah, To defend the respected scholar here I must know, which post/fatawa did she, the questioner refer to and What response exactly did Islam QandA Shyookh reply. However, I am not surprised if the Imam did say that since Prophet Mohammad(SalAllahu A'laihe wasallam) preferred that his followers marry a virgin. Here is my evidence:
Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allah be pleased with them) reported: I married a woman during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (may peace be. upon him). I met the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him), whereupon he said: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He said: A virgin or one previously marrried? I said: With due previously married, whereupon he said: Why did you not marry a virgin with whom you could sport? I said: Allah's Messenger, I have sisters; I was afraid that she might intervene between me and them, whereupon he said: Well and good, if it is so. A woman is married for four reasons, for her religion, her property, her status, her beauty, so you should choose one with religion. May your hands cleave to dust.
-Book of Marriage, Sahih Muslim, Hadith number 3458
Jabir b. 'Abdullah (Allah be pleased with them) reported: 'Abdullah died and he left (behind him) nine or seven daughters. I married a woman who had been previously married. Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said to me: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He (again) said: A virgin or one previously married? I said: Messenger of Allah, with one who was previously married, whereupon he said: Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you could sport with her and she could sport with you, or you could amuse with her and she could amuse with you? I said to him: 'Abdullah died (he fell as martyr in Uhud) and left nine or seven daughters behind him; I, therefore, did not approve of the idea that I should bring a (girl) like them, but I preferred to bring a woman who should look after them and teach them good manners, whereupon he (Allah's Messenger) said: May Allah bless you, or he supplicated (for the) good (to be) conferred on me (by Allah).
-Book of Marriage, Sahih Muslim, Hadith number 3460
there are numerous narrations of the same event which indicate that when you do have the choice for marriage, virginity is preferred.
In Islam, There are certain matters which only apply to Prophet Mohammad(SalAllahu A'laihe wasallam). for example, the tahajjud prayer/night prayer was obligatory for him, while for us it is voluntary/optional; we can marry up to four wives but he(SalAllahu A'laihe wasallam) had more than four wives. On the other hand, it was Khadija(May Allah be pleased with her, as she is the first women to accept Islam, could also be the first person as well) who proposed to Prophet Mohammad(SalAllahu A'laihe wasallam) after she was impressed with his honesty, and success in Business...She was a Widow, she was also a very wealthy women of noble lineage.
Originally Posted by ahnaf
im also wondering this.. How can he discourage men from marrying a widow woman? Posted via BC Mobile Edition (Opera Mobile)
bhai, eishob advice poira luv nai...question koirao luv nai. ami ei ramadan month e frequently masjid visit korchi maghrib aar iftar er jonno. There used to be 15 mins talk everyday prior to iftar. Maan kichu kichu lecture shune ami khubi disappointed hoichilam.. matha gorom korar moto....but chup kore, namaz pore, Allahr kache personal doiya kore, iftar kore.. bashai ferot aschi...
miccrophone niya ajaira kotha bollei eita right na...