2nd BD trip and Bride-hunting experiences

[deshprem]

Originally Posted by al Furqaan
By her, no.

Want to share by who then?

[al Furqaan]

Originally Posted by deshprem
Want to share by who then?

There are far too many to list in one night.

[Purbasha T]

Originally Posted by al Furqaan
There are far too many to list in one night.

Take your time, no one's leaving their chairs.

*orders more popcorn*

[Zunaid]

Originally Posted by Purbasha T
Take your time, no one's leaving their chairs.

*orders more popcorn*

And milk-duds.

[Dilscoop]

[Crisis]

Originally Posted by Dilscoop

[Crisis]

Let me make one last post in this thread in order to clarify anything that certain people misinterpreted. It seems my brief statements and my silence made them muddy the water further.

A lot of my points were MY observations and were not statements. e.g. When I say BD girls can't cook,
-I mean most BD girls don't know how to cook. Only after getting married that they start learning how to cook.
- I DON'T mean I ate cooked food by various girls and found it appalling.

Regarding the age, again it was an observation. These days pretty girls no longer remain single after becoming 21/22. They have relationships and they get married with their other half when they are around 25, after they have finished Postgrad and have successfully started a job. So, any expat guy like me who is of marriage age aorund 28 should not expect to go to BD and find an abundant number of single pretty girls, close to his age.

Regarding intimacy, I myself am a Hajji and do Umrah once every year. Naturally, I do not approve of pre-marital intimacy as it is haram. Thus, it was my advice that it is best if an expat brother does not consider a girl who has had a relationship and instead looks for a hijab-wearing sister who should have strong Iman. At the end of the day, it is difficult to say what is what and Allah knows best and may he guide us in the right path.

Regarding Love marriages runing our country, love is a heavenly thing and if a Islamic brother and a sister fall in love and have no intimate contact until marriage, then there is no problem with this. But, it makes me sad to see love relationships resulting in divorce just after a few years.

Regarding girls being career minded, again it was an observation. And, I proudly stated that observation. It is good to see our girls pursuing careers and being in a strong position in society. After marriage, a girl should work if she wants .. she will become bored staying at home all day and she was not sent to Uni to become a housewife ultimately. I would obviously want my wife to work as she can contribute to the happiness of my family.

Regarding Doctor girls, I have observed that their lives are too busy. They get called out to fill a rota or get called to attend patients quite regularly. Ideally, Doctor girls are suited for Doctor guys. I tried to meet two Doctor girls but they constantly kept changing the meeting dates between our families and at the end, I just gave up on them.

Regarding girls not wanting to move abroad, it was frustating for me to have been rejected by various girls' families as I live abroad and the girl does not want to move abroad. After seeing my CV, did they not know that I live in the UK ? No, I did not wave my foreign passport or even told them I had one. Theya re happy to stay in BD with their families despite the harsh living conditions.

My thread was aimed at making my expat single brothers realize the difficulty of getting married these days, which I am myself encountering. May Allah guide us all.

[simon]

what's with the brother and sister fall in love thing bro ?

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[Crisis]

Originally Posted by simon
what's with the brother and sister fall in love thing bro ?

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In the Islamic world, every guy is a brother and every girl is a sister. That's how you talk to Muslim strangers.

[layperson]

Originally Posted by Crisis
In the Islamic world, every guy is a brother and every girl is a sister. That's how you talk to Muslim strangers.

That is just gross, you dont talk about male and female as brother and sister and talk about getting married to a "sister" ! Its one thing respecting women and not objectifying them but its another thing thinking of every woman as your sister and then get married to your sister > chinta korei grossed out hochchi

[Roey Haque]

Originally Posted by Crisis

Regarding Love marriages runing our country, love is a heavenly thing and if a brother and a sister fall in love and have no intimate contact until marriage, then there is no problem with this.

*Vomits* I see my Doritos didn't have time to digest.

[Crisis]

Man, you guys are soemthing. Have added the word "Islamic" now and in bold.

[NoName]

[Blah]

Theya re happy to stay in BD with their families despite the harsh living conditions.

What harsh living conditions? If you are relatively well off (not even rich) you can live like a king in BD. I just moved to bd after ~14 years from NY and I am currently working (few of them on brainstorming stage) on several business ideas and I am loving the whole startup type mentality here in dhaka business circle. Simply because there are so many opportunity and room for improvements.

Yes there are issues with BD. Corruption, power outage, pollution, traffic; to name a few. But it really is not as bad as I thought it would be. Afterall its a developing country. I have been to several states (and cities) in India recently and I would say in many ways we are much better off.

I would not call it "harsh living conditions". Things are not THAT bad.

You remind me of my sister. She lived most of her adult life abroad and she is full of herself too.

Thing is you are making too many generalizations. How long did you stay? Where did you stay? What kind of circle did you hang out with? What was your expectation?

Last, but not least, why wouldn't anyone be happy to stay close to their family and friends and stable job and not want to move away with a complete stranger to an unknown country?

What qualifications do YOU have for anyone to leave everything they love and move away with you?

[simon]

Originally Posted by Blah
What harsh living conditions? If you are relatively well off (not even rich) you can live like a king in BD. I just moved to bd after ~14 years from NY and I am currently working (few of them on brainstorming stage) on several business ideas and I am loving the whole startup type mentality here in dhaka business circle. Simply because there are so many opportunity and room for improvements.

Yes there are issues with BD. Corruption, power outage, pollution, traffic; to name a few. But it really is not as bad as I thought it would be. Afterall its a developing country. I have been to several states (and cities) in India recently and I would say in many ways we are much better off.

I would not call it "harsh living conditions". Things are not THAT bad.

You remind me of my sister. She lived most of her adult life abroad and she is full of herself too.

Thing is you are making too many generalizations. How long did you stay? Where did you stay? What kind of circle did you hang out with? What was your expectation?

Last, but not least, why wouldn't anyone be happy to stay close to their family and friends and stable job and not want to move away with a complete stranger to an unknown country?

What qualifications do YOU have for anyone to leave everything they love and move away with you?

nice read

[deshimon]

Originally Posted by Blah
What harsh living conditions? If you are relatively well off (not even rich) you can live like a king in BD. I just moved to bd after ~14 years from NY and I am currently working (few of them on brainstorming stage) on several business ideas and I am loving the whole startup type mentality here in dhaka business circle. Simply because there are so many opportunity and room for improvements.

Yes there are issues with BD. Corruption, power outage, pollution, traffic; to name a few. But it really is not as bad as I thought it would be. Afterall its a developing country. I have been to several states (and cities) in India recently and I would say in many ways we are much better off.

I would not call it "harsh living conditions". Things are not THAT bad.

You remind me of my sister. She lived most of her adult life abroad and she is full of herself too.

Thing is you are making too many generalizations. How long did you stay? Where did you stay? What kind of circle did you hang out with? What was your expectation?

Last, but not least, why wouldn't anyone be happy to stay close to their family and friends and stable job and not want to move away with a complete stranger to an unknown country?

What qualifications do YOU have for anyone to leave everything they love and move away with you?

Excellent read. I am living abroad but I never think to stay my whole life here. I miss everyone and the pleasures of my life.