Bullying against Bullying, does it work?

[mhferdaus]

I give up ... I am shiiit and you are chaos, did you need a paper signed by me to make you free of trial, well I guess that would be kind of suicide too.

[AsifTheManRahman]

i think you need a break from work or whatever it is that you do, and a good night's sleep as a side.

[billah]

mhferdaus: Y'kno, a bully is actually a wimp. That is his/her true identity. So, when you give them a taste of their own potion, they back off, the wimp in them come out. Generally, I'd say, if you are not a natural bully, go ahead and use the tactics, it's my favorite and works like magic.

In reference to your incident though, I'd never respond to a girl in the same manner. Girls are not natural bullies, so they are merely pretenders in my opinion. Frankly, I quite enjoy striking up a conversation with an openly offensive person of the opposite sex.

[Rubu]

I think those girls were just trying to hit on you.

[mhferdaus]

nope, they were trying to hit me ... cuz i invaded their country [ or so they thought and I thought this country was bigger so I could avoid emericans ... guess not, so I have to withdraw myself]

[VladMamu]

Originally posted by mhferdaus

As in trying to get intimate? nah, you should know that i am one of the most ugly people there is ( that is in human standard ), I am pretty much sure they were making fun of me. Any case it is probably better to avoid girl bulleys cuz its loose-loose situation, you hit back you loose you take it you loose .

Rubu! That's exactly what I was thinking, that these girls were trying to hit on him.

mhferdaus, many girls like the eccentric "ugly" look. It gives the girls a sense of security to be with a "manly" guy. Not everyone likes the "feminie" "boyish" type of guy like me. You self - esteem is very bad my friend. Send me a picture, and I will print it and have girls in my University analyze it for you. u2u it to me. I'm sure no one is that ugly, that some girls woudn't find him attractive.

I will ask the girls to rate it. I would do this for you because I think it is sad that you feel this way. Further, I'm sure your feelings are unfounded, based on some things that people said in your youth, or some events that occured.

[mhferdaus]

could not care less

[VladMamu]

mhferdaus. sounds like your self esteem is intact buddy. I still think they were hitting on you!

[Carte Blanche]

mhferdaus,

Are the girls Desi? If yes, I have a similar story to tell.

[Orpheus]

Originally posted by Carte Blanche
mhferdaus,

Are the girls Desi? If yes, I have a similar story to tell.

heh! we can't wait to read!

[mhferdaus]

Originally posted by whiteguy
mhferdaus. sounds like your self esteem is intact buddy. I still think they were hitting on you!

No dude I do not have that much self-esteem to begin with, so I guess it is in tact he he .

What is desi?

Is it something like pepsi?

could not care less about self esteem too ... if I did not exist, I could not lose esteem, and pray that I get out of here, so that you and I both could have some breather

[Carte Blanche]

Word derived from Sanskrit. Means "one from our country"; a national opposed to a foreign. Usually refers to people from India, Pakistan, & Bangladesh.

For Indians/Pakistanis/Bengalis abroad, it has become a term that mainly identifies another fellow Indian/Pakistani/Bengali

Example: Yo that guy must be desi, he's brown and hes speaking punjabi!

Source

Edited on, November 20, 2005, 8:39 PM GMT, by Carte Blanche.
Reason: Source

[mhferdaus]

Originally posted by Carte Blanche
Word derived from Sanskrit. Means "one from our country"; a national opposed to a foreign. Usually refers to people from India, Pakistan, & Bangladesh.

For Indians/Pakistanis/Bengalis abroad, it has become a term that mainly identifies another fellow Indian/Pakistani/Bengali

Example: Yo that guy must be desi, he's brown and hes speaking punjabi!

Source

Edited on, November 20, 2005, 8:39 PM GMT, by Carte Blanche.
Reason: Source

I am black and I kind of look like African and Sinhales ( not tamil ), a lot of people from Bangladesh do, and the term should be subcontinental not national, and Srilanka and Maldives should be included too.

[Carte Blanche]

w/e you get my drift. If you don't want to answer, I will understand

[mhferdaus]

Bullying against Bullying, does it work?

It will work as long as the person who is bulling in the first place, does not retaliate with further bullying.

But if he/she does, in that case it may be wise if you take a deep breath and run away in full speed as fast as you can. And then when you feel safe, see if the person is following you. If he/she is not, then for your own satisfaction you can scream back, " Geli !!!!!!"

you are damn right ... they could not even stand my presence, imagine how would they like if I talk back [ or was I talking? could not think of anything to talk to them anyway ].

they could have got their wish by deathing or deporting me back then, but they chose to make more chaos ... and its all my fault so behead me by court order if you want to

[Fazal]

Bullying against Bullying, does it work?

It will work as long as the person who is bulling in the first place, does not retaliate with further bullying.

But if he/she does, in that case it may be wise if you take a deep breath and run away in full speed as fast as you can. And then when you feel safe, see if the person is following you. If he/she is not, then for your own satisfaction you can scream back, " Geli !!!!!!"


Edited on, November 21, 2005, 8:53 PM GMT, by Fazal.

[Rubu]

Fazal, that might not work as well.

Against real bullies, the number one thing that you don't wanna show them is that you are scared. Just like dogs, they will be hugely encouraged if they see that you are scared. can even start chasing you if you run. Rather, say something like, 'find someone else to play with buddy..' and leave with confident foot steps.

i consider myself kind of an expert because i grew up in a place that is still famous for producing a huge number of bullies

[Sauron]

Originally posted by Rubu
Fazal, that might not work as well.

Against real bullies, the number one thing that you don't wanna show them is that you are scared. Just like dogs, they will be hugely encouraged if they see that you are scared. can even start chasing you if you run. Rather, say something like, 'find someone else to play with buddy..' and leave with confident foot steps.

i consider myself kind of an expert because i grew up in a place that is still famous for producing a huge number of bullies

Yep, your method should (almost) always work

Btw, just curious ... where did u grow up?

[Rubu]

Originally posted by Sauron

Btw, just curious ... where did u grow up?

Sirajganj - Proper.

Village name is 'Vanga bari' aka milon more.

Just to give an example: when I was stuying in dhaka college for HSC someone from sirajganj asked me where my home was. I said it, and his reply was something like, i did not know kids of vangabari studies, let alone coming to dhaka collge.

but things got a lot better now.

Yep, your method should (almost) always work

There is one time that it will never work. That is when a junky is in need. fortunately, you can usually tell a junky just by looking. in that case, (in my opinion of course) there is only two things you can do.

1. if he does not have a weapon in his hand. you have to react first. don't give him time to pull one. hit him hard and then run. junkies are by defination weak, and by the time he recovers from the hit, you are in safe distance.
2. give him what he wants.
or you can run too before hitting, but u can be sure he will chase you as much as he can.

Edited on, November 22, 2005, 12:41 AM GMT, by Rubu.