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February 12, 2018, 05:28 AM
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How successful are you?
How successful are you?
How do you define success is it something tangible and quantifiable or do you think success is irrelevant.
At my stage in like I think it would be hard to say, how successful I am. But that may not be the case for many veterans in this forum.
So on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the most successful, how successful are you.
I forgot to add a poll.
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February 12, 2018, 05:42 AM
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very subjective. Depends who you ask.
Growing up, one of my best friends mom wouold say I am very successful - but she is comparing me to her son.
To me I rate it at 2. I am not even trying :p
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February 12, 2018, 05:48 AM
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I think success should be measured by goals in your life.
If your goal is to be happy - success should be measured by how happy you are.
if your goal is to be rich - success shoudl be measured by how much money you make.
if your goal is to be famous - success should be measured by how many youtube hits you get
so on and so forth...
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February 12, 2018, 05:53 AM
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I think success should be measured by goals in your life.
If your goal is to be happy - success should be measured by how happy you are.
if your goal is to be rich - success shoudl be measured by how much money you make.
if your goal is to be famous - success should be measured by how many youtube hits you get
so on and so forth...
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So what are your goals in life.
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February 12, 2018, 06:02 AM
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So what are your goals in life.
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be happy, bed multiple women, be free, be a multi millionaires, change lives of others for better, be someone's role model, be the best among peers... and the list goes on.
So 2/10 , maybe 1/10.
whats yours?
I will be happy if i can get to 5/10 before i die. Seems very unlikely.
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February 12, 2018, 06:09 AM
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be happy, bed multiple women, be free, be a multi millionaires, change lives of others for better, be someone's role model, be the best among peers... and the list goes on.
So 2/10 , maybe 1/10.
whats yours?
I will be happy if i can get to 5/10 before i die. Seems very unlikely.
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I think the list will get shorter as we get older.
1.Have a legacy.
2. Make the world a better place.
Those are mine at the moment.
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February 12, 2018, 06:38 AM
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I think the list will get shorter as we get older.
1.Have a legacy.
2. Make the world a better place.
Those are mine at the moment.
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That is extremely hard to achieve. I think you should set lower goals in life. I think the way you measure your success should evolve (not necesarily get shorter) as you age. For you now, perhaps getting good grades, getting into good post-grad, getting the job or the degree u wanted should be your yardstick of success.. once you achieve that you will say - Meh - that was nothing... and your goals evolve - the way you measure success evolve...
When i think of success - schooling doesn't even cross my mind for a second now because it's over. It's an after thought. Now you are no longer sorrounded by ppl from highschool who u left behind. Now you in fields with ppl who had done it better. I work side by side with some ivy league grads who puts my education to shame.. My success yardstick is against them now... and once i can topple that - it will be something else.
Now going back to my friend whose mom thinks i am a great success compare to her son - but I am jealous of him. she doesn't know that. He got all the hot girls growing up and i wish i was like him. so i am a failure :p
so you see not all can have it all like Donald Trump - the ultimate successful man on earth.
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February 12, 2018, 09:02 AM
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be happy, bed multiple women, be free, be a multi millionaires, change lives of others for better, be someone's role model, be the best among peers... and the list goes on.
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Might wanna add a LG UHD wallpaper tv. Those tvs looks amazing and would certainly lead to happiness
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February 12, 2018, 09:39 AM
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Might wanna add a LG UHD wallpaper tv. Those tvs looks amazing and would certainly lead to happiness
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Haha ..can't argue it would look amazing but not sure it would lead to happiness though. I am not really a big movie or tv person.
But that's a good yardstick of success. The size and thinness of your tv.
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February 12, 2018, 06:18 AM
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1. Be loved and respected by friends, family and colleagues. 9/10
2. Save enough for a luxurious retirememt. 5/10
3. Quit wasting time on BC. 1/10
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February 12, 2018, 06:30 AM
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1. Be loved and respected by friends, family and colleagues. 9/10
2. Save enough for a luxurious retirememt. 5/10
3. Quit wasting time on BC. 1/10
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The last one gonna take some willpower.
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February 12, 2018, 06:37 AM
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What do you guys live for, honestly has any of you asked yourself that question.
I honestly don't know what I am living for.
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February 12, 2018, 06:42 AM
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I honestly don't know what I am living for.
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why do you have to live for anything? Just living... eating sleeping watching spors using the net is pleasurable. No?
Life is so beautiful despite the pain sometimes it inflicts on us. Knowing to tackle it and manuevering it is cool..
Just be glad u are not thinking where your next meal is coming from.
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February 12, 2018, 06:51 AM
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Is getting married and having kids really worth it, seems overrated imo.
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February 12, 2018, 06:56 AM
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Is getting married and having kids really worth it, seems overrated imo.
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haha. you ahve to discover yourself to know the answer to this question if marriage and kids are right for you.
this decision will have the most impact in your life.
If you ask me - it's not worth it. If you ask someone else, they will say - they can't think of a life without their wife or atleast children. So you have to know yourself.
Good luck and don't rush to any decisions.
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February 12, 2018, 07:15 AM
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haha. you ahve to discover yourself to know the answer to this question if marriage and kids are right for you.
this decision will have the most impact in your life.
If you ask me - it's not worth it. If you ask someone else, they will say - they can't think of a life without their wife or atleast children. So you have to know yourself.
Good luck and don't rush to any decisions.
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How did you know that it was not worth it did it just come to you.
Or was it by second hand examples.
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February 12, 2018, 07:20 AM
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Is getting married and having kids really worth it, seems overrated imo.
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Those are outcomes of a relationship you will have with your loved one. Nobody gets into a relationship with the objective of marriage and kids upfront. That is a recipe for unhapiness and disaster. If there is chemistry it will evolve into love and at a certain time you will naturally feel like taking the next step. You will also discover that it is worth living also for that someone you truely love.
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February 12, 2018, 07:34 AM
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Those are outcomes of a relationship you will have with your loved one. Nobody gets into a relationship with the objective of marriage and kids upfront. That is a recipe for unhapiness and disaster. If there is chemistry it will evolve into love and at a certain time you will naturally feel like taking the next step. You will also discover that it is worth living also for that someone you truely love.
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Hmm. What is love? There are many examples of how men become a different person when the women he loves and marries doesn’t give him a child. Many times, even if the women gives birth to child and it’s a girl, the men wants another, he tries for a boy. The romantic guys those who believe in love say well it’s not true love. Than I ask.. what those men have gone through, have you? Imagine loving someone, but she has some problems, can’t give birth to a child? So many examples of those so called love turning the wrong way when the women can’t give what you want.
Eventually marriage is about children/family, be it covered with the tag ‘love marriage’ or ‘arranged marriage’. The example above I used is of a European, I personally know that person. She went through some tough time, until she had her second child, luckily a boy.
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February 12, 2018, 07:57 AM
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Hmm. What is love? There are many examples of how men become a different person when the women he loves and marries doesn’t give him a child. Many times, even if the women gives birth to child and it’s a girl, the men wants another, he tries for a boy. The romantic guys those who believe in love say well it’s not true love. Than I ask.. what those men have gone through, have you? Imagine loving someone, but she has some problems, can’t give birth to a child? So many examples of those so called love turning the wrong way when the women can’t give what you want.
Eventually marriage is about children/family, be it covered with the tag ‘love marriage’ or ‘arranged marriage’. The example above I used is of a European, I personally know that person. She went through some tough time, until she had her second child, luckily a boy.
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This is a good post.
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February 12, 2018, 08:21 AM
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Hmm. What is love? There are many examples of how men become a different person when the women he loves and marries doesn’t give him a child. Many times, even if the women gives birth to child and it’s a girl, the men wants another, he tries for a boy. The romantic guys those who believe in love say well it’s not true love. Than I ask.. what those men have gone through, have you? Imagine loving someone, but she has some problems, can’t give birth to a child? So many examples of those so called love turning the wrong way when the women can’t give what you want.
Eventually marriage is about children/family, be it covered with the tag ‘love marriage’ or ‘arranged marriage’. The example above I used is of a European, I personally know that person. She went through some tough time, until she had her second child, luckily a boy.
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I was speaking to dinraat who didnt seem to have a backward mentality like the men you describe. If he does then it is unfortunate for him and the girl. I dont hangout with people with that kind of medieval mindset so cant really relate or give you a nuanced answer.
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February 12, 2018, 08:48 AM
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I was speaking to dinraat who didnt seem to have a backward mentality like the men you describe. If he does then it is unfortunate for him and the girl. I dont hangout with people with that kind of medieval mindset so cant really relate or give you a nuanced answer.
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What I find frightening is the divorce rate that’s increasing with love marriage.
You ought to think that it’s love marriage and things will be smooth and rosy.
But in reality, love marriage is having more problems than arranged marriage these days! Shocking to be honest.
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February 12, 2018, 06:52 AM
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Health - 6/10
Wealth - 3/10
Life = (6+3)/2 = 4.5
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February 12, 2018, 07:56 AM
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Love is something intangible, it has no mathematical proof or theorem we can understand. I guess its a sort of carnal instinct, separates us from the animals.
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February 12, 2018, 10:22 AM
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I think I will grade myself to 1.2 out of 10.
I lived too long for other people, and now I cannot even see to live only for myself in distant future. Everyday I act dumber than my usual self. When I am gone, the world will regret more than it will mourn.
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February 12, 2018, 10:27 AM
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I think I will grade myself to 1.2 out of 10.
I lived too long for other people, and now I cannot even see to live only for myself in distant future. Everyday I act dumber than my usual self. When I am gone, the world will regret more than it will mourn.
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Didn't quite catch the last line.
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