How much dowry did you get?

iDumb · #1 January 28, 2011, 10:16 AM

Guys, with so many young men getting married here lately, I asked myself WHY? why would some one get married? And immediately, I got the answer - it must be dowry.

So gentlemen, please share with us - what you've received as a dowry. I think Razab bhai got a watch that he sold for two pieces of kotkoti.

I didn't get anything guys. I am thinking of sending my wife back to her dad until he buys me at least the subscription for the world cup. What do you guys think? Am I selling my self short?

so what did you get - so i get an idea to fix my price.

stuge · #2 January 28, 2011, 10:21 AM

Supporting Dowry ..WTH !

Kabir · #3 January 28, 2011, 10:27 AM

The dowry I got was in CDN in '07...when it was trading at $1.20 US. But then...the currency fell, and went to $0.9, and I was broke. So it wasn't very useful dowry.

For those men who are thinking of asking for dowry...ask for it in gold bars. It's a much better quantifier than currency

iDumb · #4 January 28, 2011, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by stuge
Supporting Dowry ..WTH !

what's wrong with supporting dowry? It is widely practiced culturally. People don't call it dowry but it is practiced.

I mean I don't expect gifts in my wedding but if I get a good gift, I will appreciate that person and will probably remember that gift for the rest of my life. It's that kind of an event. This is the reason why dowry/gifts from bride's family/whatever you call it - can be a positive thing.

Either way, I am kicking out my wife back to her dad's house if I don't get what I want. I feel cheated.

Zeeshan · #5 January 28, 2011, 10:30 AM

Daury I gaut no daury....ma wife gayve mei no daury....ownly thang shei gayve was a big hunka thumpin at hair momma's howme....

iDumb · #6 January 28, 2011, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Kabir
The dowry I got was in CDN in '07...when it was trading at $1.20 US. But then...the currency fell, and went to $0.9, and I was broke. So it wasn't very useful dowry.

yeah but what was it? $20 CDN? Gold bar is not a bad idea but it has to be at least be affordable with sell of their property.

stuge · #7 January 28, 2011, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by iDumb

Either way, I am kicking out my wife back to her dad's house if I don't get what I want. I feel cheated.

its an Evil practice :

I may not be criminal in Bangladesh ,but where I live its a Criminal Offence .

you guys carry on.
I'm out of this thread .

iDumb · #8 January 28, 2011, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by stuge
its an Evil practice :

you know what I think is Evil practice? Marriage! Why isn't that illegal in where you live?

iDumb · #9 January 28, 2011, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Kabir
The dowry I got was in CDN in '07...when it was trading at $1.20 US. But then...the currency fell, and went to $0.9, and I was broke. So it wasn't very useful dowry.

For those men who are thinking of asking for dowry...ask for it in gold bars. It's a much better quantifier than currency

see kabir given you have such a good business mindset, you made the mistake of getting married to a woman ( a depreciating asset as they age). A better investment would have been to marry a man. oh but then again, i forgot - she is the one wearing pants in your relationship.

Zeeshan · #10 January 28, 2011, 11:05 AM

Bride price > dowry

iDumb · #11 January 28, 2011, 11:15 AM

also guys if you are not married, how much dowry do you expect? basically what's your price? I mean i want zeeshan to really think about this.

Zeeshan · #12 January 28, 2011, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by iDumb
also guys if you are not married, how much dowry do you expect? basically what's your price? I mean i want zeeshan to really think about this.

lol you are a hoot

stuge · #13 January 28, 2011, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by iDumb
you know what I think is Evil practice? Marriage!

naah ! you don't ,otherwise you wouldn't have been married .

**Nasif** · #14 January 28, 2011, 11:54 AM

In Islam: Dowry is for women; not for men. Must be paid in full (whatever reasonable amount was mutually agreed upon) as part of marriage contract. This money exclusively belongs to bride.

iDumb · #15 January 28, 2011, 12:17 PM

yes that's true Nasif bhai. You are talking about "den mohor" i think. Many people think that that money is only paid in case of divorce but that's not true.. it must also be paid during marriage unless the wife forgives. If marriage is supposed to be the union of two equals why do girls get everything?

If i have to sign a den mohor or dowry for the wife, I wanna a dowry too. Is that so evil? I mean I am gonna burn in hell fire if I don't fulfill my obligation. And if I merely send her home when I don't receive my dowry from her parents, I am evil? Why the double standards? which is worse?

RazabQ · #16 January 28, 2011, 12:30 PM

As mod: stuge, please bring your sense of humor to FC threads.

al Furqaan · #17 January 28, 2011, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by stuge
its an Evil practice :

I may not be criminal in Bangladesh ,but where I live its a Criminal Offence .

you guys carry on.
I'm out of this thread .

so is buying your fiancee a blood-soaked diamond that serves no real purpose except to show off to in front of her friends.

btw, this is a joke thread...

ialbd · #18 January 28, 2011, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by stuge
I may not be criminal in Bangladesh ,but where I live its a Criminal Offence .
you guys carry on.
I'm out of this thread .

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Originally Posted by al Furqaan
btw, this is a joke thread...

thanks for clarifying that for our foreign guest... (stating the obvious joke/sarcasm does help).

I just realized how we, the seasoned members, enjoy these kind of threads by idumb/ZeeshanM but a new visitor (and if he happens to be non-Bangladeshi) might be taken aback by certain things.

I remember one of the indian cricket forums quoting few member's posts from BC (which were just some sarcastic remarks) and labeling them as "This is the Bangladeshis knowledge on cricket". While these misunderstandings are almost impossible to avoid, maybe we can work on the obvious ones...

So Stuge (or anyone other readers getting confused over this), hope you didnt get the wrong idea about Bangladesh.... this is some lighthearted fun we have around here in BC.... cheers...

Nafi · #19 January 28, 2011, 02:25 PM

I wouldn't mind a bmw....

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Nadim · #20 January 28, 2011, 03:38 PM

ghor jamai

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bujhee kom · #21 January 28, 2011, 03:45 PM

My in-laws are southern Gun-Dealers and my father-in-law a few wekks after I got married, gave me two Brownings as dowry and I said, no no abba, ami moslem, I cannot accept this dowry, they (the main man, big man) will instantly put me in Gua'namo and your daughter will never see me again and then the next day my mother-in-law bought me a happy meal and some socks and a set of pots and pans from Wal-Mart. + a tooth-brush and a 12 pack of Irish-Spring soaps.

Kabir · #22 January 28, 2011, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by iDumb
see kabir given you have such a good business mindset, you made the mistake of getting married to a woman ( a depreciating asset as they age). A better investment would have been to marry a man. oh but then again, i forgot - she is the one wearing pants in your relationship.

Yup, I have a great business mindset. That's why I played my cards right, and got a bou who trains doctors (doctor - something you'll be when you grow older).

As for who wears pants...lets just say I didn't have to settle for a kaajer buwa so that I could wear pants.

As for depreciating assets, a wife who makes the same as I do ( > what a doctor makes initially)...it shouldn't be considered as a depreciating asset. A kaajer buwa? May be...

iDumb · #23 January 28, 2011, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Kabir
Yup, I have a great business mindset. That's why I played my cards right, and got a bou who trains doctors ...a wife who makes the same as I do ( > what a doctor makes initially)..

Kabir, it is good to know that you married your wife for her money. I will marry any kajer bua despite her being the most depreciating asset in the world if I love her because in marriage, my investment is emotional and for a happy life, not money like you materialistic, greedy, immoral capitalist mindset people. I mean My God!! who talks about their wife like that - as if she is a piece of property you own....

and people thought I am evil for asking about dowry...the above mindset is the real face of devil.

Zeeshan · #24 January 28, 2011, 04:57 PM

iDumb I have a problem. My parents arranged a marriage for me and I have no say and when I saw her facebook profile by logging into her account she has lot of affairs with many guys...

what should i do?

edit: she is rich

roman · #25 January 28, 2011, 04:59 PM

^ start dating more girls. Shodh bodh hoye jabe